AUTHORITARIAN LEADERSHIP: impact in the children development 2/3
It is undignified and offending when we need to obey orders,
Although we are more than ready for cooperation.
– Jesper Juul –
When ”good kids” express their opinion, they consider a pressure from a coach as an introduction to a punishment. The consequence is an adult who is determined by a mindset from his childhood: dependence on a praise of others.
This often leads to a life that adds up to a desire to reach unrealistic perfect ideals.
On the other side, they are afraid of other people’s opinions:
What if result of their opinion would be a critic, a punishment or something similar?
What if I am not good enough?
A fear of making mistake is created and continuous feeling of being guilty.
When we add up a dependence on a praise and turning away from criticism, we get a person who does not have an internal leadership and who is searching it in others, has difficulties in standing up for himself and easily becomes a victim.
A sense of self-worth is permanently destroyed with such kids, because:
How could somebody be sure that he is always valuable,
if he depends on other people’s opinion?
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