COMPETENT COACH 4/7

HOW (NOT) TO (MIS) USE PRAISES AND CRITICISM?

Every time we feel the need to show and(or) prove something to a child, we should stop and ask ourselves a question:

”Is this mine or his responsibility?

If we give them a right to make mistake, they will feel small failures and defeats. They will learn how to handle them.

When they succeed, success will be theirs.

When they grow older, they need to be persistent, to know how to overcome obstacles, not to get upset about criticism in the media… 

How and when a child should start learning that?

Instead of showing how clever we are, we need to design a framework in which a child will have their own experiences and draw their own conclusions. Such learning is more powerful than any other explanations.

Most importantly: ”It is his learning.”